Lately, I have noticed a trend, and I’m sure many of you have too, of girls posting things on social media advertising their love of Netflix, cheap wine and/or lazing around in their pyjamas. I’m sure we’ve all seen the posts along the lines of “5pm on a Sunday, still drinking boxed wine and watching Netflix” and “Wearing pyjamas all day so you don’t have to do laundry… #stayclassy”.
Memes such as the Foul Bachelorette Frog have been around a long time, but other social media seems to be catching on, such as the likes of @betches on Instagram.
Don’t get me wrong, some of it I do find genuinely funny, but on the whole, this whole “I’m just a lazy girl who loves Netflix, wine and pyjamas, haha lol!” persona just kind of seems like a bit of a forced humor. I’m pretty sure all of us at various times enjoys each of these things, but for some, their entire online persona seems to revolve around this.
Recently, I went for coffee with a friend who’s trying out Tinder for the first time, and he was stressing out about what to write on his profile. I don’t really know too much about Tinder or Happn and their ilk, I got into a relationship right before they became a thing, so unfortunately I don’t have any horror stories of my own to share. But this particular friend, he was complaining about how difficult it is to get replies, how difficult it is to know how to describe yourself in just a couple of lines and how difficult it is to find people that seemed normal.
He found there were a lot of girls using the line “I want to be treated like a princess”. These girls he was automatically writing off (or swiping whatever way you swipe when you don’t want to date someone). His reasoning, which he shares with other male friends I’ve since talked to, is that this comes across as demanding, high maintenance and entitled. These guys have no problem bringing a girl on dates and treating them well, but the common theme was that they wanted to do that of their own volition, because they liked the girl, not because she demanded it.
Which brings me back to my original point about this other kind of girl that’s becoming ubiquitous, the Lazy Wine Girl.
To use Carrie Bradshaw’s really annoying phrase, I couldn’t help but wonder, was this new breed of woman on the internet born out of not wanting to lump themselves in with the Princesses and Marilyn Monroe Quote Girls? I have no time for pretentiousness, and I’m all for people being down to earth and just a normal human being, but some of it seems forced, like they’re trying to make a very vocal point, “Look at me, I’m low maintenance!”.
Low maintenance is great. Netflix is great. Pyjamas are great. Wine is particularly great. But each one of these things have their place, and in the same way I wish I could tell some of these Essex Girls to tone down the makeup and wash off those ridiculous eyebrows, I also kind of want to tell the Lazy Wine Girls to stop trying to hard to not try hard.
It’s lovely to lounge around in your jammies and watch Orange is the New Black, I prefer it to going out sometimes. But it’s also okay if you want to spend awhile getting dressed up and going somewhere nice. I often visit my grandmother and I love seeing all her old white gloves and hats from the 50s and 60s, and I actually think its really nice that people used to make such an effort to dress up when they went anywhere.
I know it’s time consuming to dress up every day, and not really viable for most of us, but we do seem to have lost that polished look. I know I personally feel a bit happier if I’ve made some effort to get ready in the morning, than if I’ve just thrown on trackies to run around to Tesco with my hair unbrushed.
I guess what I’m getting at here is that it would be nice to find some sort of happy medium between the Princesses and Lazy Wine Girls… but hey, you do you.